Self-Image in the age of social media

Have you ever looked in the mirror and felt like what you saw didn’t quite match how you felt inside? You’re not alone. Growing up, our bodies and minds change drastically, and these changes can significantly impact how we see ourselves.
Self-image is how we perceive ourselves, encompassing our thoughts and feelings about our appearance, abilities, and personality. As a young person who went through high school in a generation captivated by social media, I understand the bombardment of unrealistic images and messages online and how they can negatively shape our self-image.

It’s so easy to fall into the trap of comparing ourselves to others, whether it’s feeling the pressure to have a figure like the Kardashians, the charisma of Sabrina Carpenter, the fitness level of Zac Efron in the new Iron Claw movie, or the “manliness” of Jacob Elordi in Euphoria. Even comparing ourselves to the “popular group” at school can be overwhelming. It’s completely normal to have these feelings—I did throughout school and still do to this day. I don’t think I have ever truly been happy with my self-image, and I know many others feel the same, constantly critiquing their appearance or personality: “Oh, I wish my stomach was flatter. I wish I was as funny as her. I wish I didn’t ramble so much.”

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Young people face immense pressure to fit in and be a certain way, always chasing unrealistic ideals. But it’s crucial to find happiness within ourselves. Watching Greta Gerwig’s “Barbie” made me realize how difficult it is to be human in a society obsessed with social media and high expectations. America Ferrera’s speech in the film, starting with “you have to be thin, but not too thin…,” perfectly encapsulates the struggles with self-image and the pressures we face in modern society.

This speech, along with Billie Eilish’s song, flooded TikTok and resonated with many, highlighting the unrealistic standards we all try to meet.

As young people, it’s so important to show self-love and recognize that everyone has flaws and nobody is perfect. We need to treat ourselves with the same kindness we would offer a friend. Social media often portrays a “perfect” version of people’s lives, not the reality of everyday moments like going to do the food shop at Lidl or doing chores like cleaning your hamster’s cage out. So why do we let it ruin our perception of ourselves, leading to anxiety, depression, and eating disorders?

Perhaps we need to start taking breaks from social media to focus on real-life connections or curate a feed that includes positive and inspiring accounts. Starting the day with a positive affirmation, like “I am enough” or “I am worthy,” can also make a big difference. If self-image is something you really struggle with, seek support. Talk to trusted friends, family, or professionals. Don’t hesitate to reach out for help if you’re struggling—talking to someone can make a huge difference. If you’re struggling to find someone to talk to or don’t know where to turn, I recommend reaching out to a service like Teen Line, a confidential hotline run by teens for teens.

Improving your self-image takes time, but remember, you are not alone in this journey. Every step forward is a step towards a healthier, happier you.

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